Emotional Freedom Leads to Purpose
Emotional Freedom Leads to Purpose
Implementing the Three A’s
by Siobhan M. Cefarelli
The path to emotional freedom leads to a life of purpose. Emotions often get in the way of our purpose as negative emotions left unobserved or out of control can lead us on a path of a false life without purpose, direction and goals. Becoming a person who is not shackled with the chains of emotions leading the way, guiding us through the day and throwing you into states of uncontrolled behavior can give you the freedom to live with purpose.
None of us are here without purpose. None of us are here just to occupy space, to wreak havoc, to run around uncontrolled and undisciplined and unfocused. Everything we do affects somebody else. Knowing our purpose is so important. In fact, they say we can add time or years onto our life by living our true purpose. Not living our purpose is the equivalent of slowly dying because we’re just surviving. A purpose-driven life, a purpose-lived life, is our contribution to this world, the universe and our souls.
In the movie It’s A Wonderful Life, the main character is presented the opportunity to see what life would be like if he was not there. How many of us would need that opportunity in order to see basic things that we’ve done throughout our day, throughout our life that have affected someone else and, in many cases, changed the course of a life? Maybe we handed a tissue to someone who was crying one day and told them everything was going to be okay. Maybe something so simple took their life in a whole different direction.
If we spend our days and our time in emotional turmoil, we can’t see much else. We can’t see the beauty of what we can do, the moments that we can have impact and the things we should be doing on a daily basis. Not because we have to, but because we want to. Our purpose is something that’s given to us and once we find it, once we know we’re living it, it fuels every portion of our life. We find more moments of joy, happiness, love and passion. Who wouldn’t want that to be their life?
The Three A’s: Awareness, Acceptance, Action
There are many different methods to find your purpose. One path to emotional freedom is implementing the Three A’s, which can be considered a vehicle to break away from the habitual emotional prison.
Let’s start with Awareness. Awareness is realizing there’s a problem, realizing we have to do something differently and realizing our life (or some part of it) is not what we want it to be. Awareness is being cognizant of our surroundings and in touch with who we really are. With our eyes open, we’re may be able to see clearly for the first time in years and truly be in the present moment. Many people call this living in the moment, others call it mindfulness.
The second A is Acceptance. Here, we look at our past through the Awareness step and now accept it. That means we accept our past, present and future. We learn from our past mistakes, understanding we do have regrets. We push away any shame and focus on the beautiful moments we have had in our life. That’s what the past is for, to teach us—it’s our experience.
Once we get to step three of the three As, we are able to take Action and begin living on purpose, with purpose. We examine and decide what we want our life to be like, physically, emotionally and spiritually, and then we take action.
Using a scale from one to 10, we can examine aspects of our lives and assess where the action needs to be. Finances are an example. Say that right now, your finances are at a five. The space between five and 10, which is where we want to be, that’s where your action can take place. You can create a budget, speak to a financial planner or a friend who is knowledgeable about finances or start a savings account. Whatever those things are that we get us to the higher end of our own scale, that’s where the action comes in.
When we’re looking at the emotional, physical and spiritual aspects of our life; we’re looking at them in categories. The beautiful part is when we start working on one area, it affects the others. If we’re working on our finances, for example, and becoming more structured and disciplined, that’s going to help in other ways. We will feel less stress, less sad, less shame and that will help us in all ways because stress is not weighing us down. When we work on these areas of our life, movement causes response. It also causes things to happen. When we move in any direction, a reaction will happen and the reactions in this case can be positive, which is great.
None of us are unnecessary. No one is without purpose unless we choose to be. When we choose to get lost and live our life blowing in the wind, running from emotion to emotion, from anger to resentment to sadness, we can’t live on purpose. Choose to live on purpose and your life will change for the better.
The purpose doesn’t have to be writing a symphony or something grandiose. Being present in your life, clear and aware about what you have to offer and want to accomplish, is enough. Whatever your purpose, do it the best that you can do it. The best way you can do that is to get rid of emotional chains so that you can see clearly. Be a person of purpose. Live with purpose and feel life.
Inspired by My Path to Emotional Freedom by Siobhan M. Cefarelli, a life coach and owner of The Lavender Group, in West Hartford. Connect at LavenderGroupLLC.com. See Community Resource Guide listing, page 36.